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Sexual Health: Anal Pleasure


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Overview

Stimulation of the anus and anal intercourse, because of their erogenous nature, are two techniques that can be terrifically arousing as long as both partners are willing to explore and discover each other. Men and women are delighted to find that stimulating the anus heightens sexual response during foreplay and while engaging in intercourse. Women may even feel especially aroused when anal stimulation is combined with simultaneous clitoral massage. Men often learned that the pleasure of anal stimulation can be significantly increased when it is extended to include massage of the prostate gland.

Just as some people have found that they can bring their partners toward greater sexual sensation and new experiences by slowly introducing oral sex, so too can you use a gradual building technique for exploring other sexual activities. In order to introduce anal stimulation, you might chose to begin by caressing and stroking your partner’s genitals and slowly and delicately working your way from front to back. By just letting your fingers brush across the anus a few times you can provide your partner with a taste of things to come.

Anal Sex involves penetration, and is becoming more and more common as a preferred interest to partners. Penetration involved the penis as well as other types of objects (such as fingers, butt plugs, dongs, and vibrators). Stimulation involves stimulating the anus externally with no penetration involved. The most common known penetration is when a finger is inserted while performing masturbation. This is called digit stimulation. The different methods of anal stimulation is discussed in greater detail in the next section.


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Anal Stimulation

Digit Stimulation

You may find that you want to follow an overall caress by deliberately stroking around the outside of the anus but withdrawing soon to other caresses. On subsequent occasions you might want to let the stroking continue for longer periods of time and eventually initiate a fingering activity. The anus contains more nerve endings than any other part of the male body, and more than any part of the female body expect the clitoris. The anus does not lubricant itself, so to have safe anal sex, a lubricant should always be used during any type of anal stimulation/penetration.

When you and your partner are comfortable, you can begin experimenting by moving your fingers in and out, back and forth, and around in a circular fashion. Never push beyond your partner’s comfort zone and listen for feedback as to how the experience is progressing. If you find that you’ve gone too far or too fast with the fingering, just back off a little. Try not to pull out completely and remember to avoid pulling out rapidly – sudden movements can make the anus even tenser.


Rimming

Another type of anal stimulation that you and your partner may wish to consider is oral-anal stimulation. This technique, called analingus, is more popularly known as 'rimming'. The lips, tongue, and anal opening are all so highly sensitive, it shouldn’t be surprising that many couples enjoy combing all three into intimate contact.

Rimming most often involves licking or kissing the anal area. Soft kisses can be used to elicit a sensual response while licking might bring about a more intense erotic reaction. Some couples even enjoy partially inserting the tongue into the anal canal and moving it in-and-out or in a circular motion. How ever a couple chooses to go about rimming, it is always important to convey one’s comfort with the level of intimacy involved. Most relationship experts agree that those two decide to explore rimming should do so immediately after showering or bathing. Not only does showering help to relieve tension, it cleanses and freshens the area to be stimulated. As for safer sex considerations, thoroughly washing the anus also reduces health risks. Such a comprehensive cleaning eliminates harmful bacteria that can cause infection.


P-Spot

The prostate gland is a sensitive spot in men that is about two inches inside the rectum, pointing towards the belly. The P-spot is in the same location as the G-spot for women. Plugs that offer a firm forward curve are designed to stimulate the prostate. A P-spot orgasm is a heightened sensation, and a different orgasm than penis stimulation that all men should experience.


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Backdoor Toys

Before enjoying the sensations of a romance toy, always try to begin by bathing and relaxing as a means of removing any tension around the anal area. Once you or your partner are comfortable you can start by applying lubricant to your finger and running it on the anal opening in preparation for inserting a toy. Keep in mind that any object entering the anus should have no sharp surfaces (this no only includes sex toys, but also your finger nails).

Always remember to lubricate whatever smooth object you will be inserting, be it a soft dildo, a flexible vibrator, or a specially designed butt plug. The Stag Shop carries a diverse range of these objects in various shapes, sizes, and colours. We agree with the experts who suggest starting small and, if desired, working your way up gradually. We also recommend covering your romance toy with a fresh condom before each use to minimize or eliminate clean up.

You should always select a position in which you can easily reach the anal area without straining it. Inhaling deeply and then exhaling as you relax the muscles around your anus will greatly improve levels of pleasure. A properly lubed object should slide easily through the anal opening. No force should be necessary; continue to breathe deep and massage the outer area if an object doesn’t glide in easily. Nice and easy is a good rule of thumb to remember when exploring anal play with toys.

To help find the right toy size that is right for you would be to do the finger test. When you are feeling relaxed and turned on, lube a finger and slide it inside. Then try to slip another one in as well. When you feel satisfied, take a look at the circumference of the amount of fingers you used. This will help you describe the diameter of the anal toy that would feel good for you. When starting with anal toys, we suggest you start off small and work your way up so that your first experience is positive and you will be eager to explore further. Fissures and tears can occur if there is forceful entry at the time of insertion, so it is important to pace insertion at your own time and pace. Allow the communication to always be open and continue throughout your sessions to have a fun and explosive orgasm like no other one that you have ever had before.


Butt Plugs

Butt plugs are popular because they have a flared base, so that the sphincter muscles will close around the plug and it will stay inside the rectum, but won’t slip in all the way. Some plugs are better at staying inside than others, and some people prefer toys that they can slide in and out easily. Plugs that are more diamond-shaped like the Butt Hungry or Crystal Jellies Butt Plug Medium, are better for staying in. Those with ripples and other fun textures can be fun to slide in and out during play, like the Tantus Protouch, or the Tantus Ripple.


Anal Dildos

If you like that in-and-out sensation, you can use dildos by hand or strap them into a harness for thrusting thrills. The Tantus Acute, or Blush Anal Starter are good beginner anal dildos and the Bend Over Harness Kit is a kit with everything you will need to get started with a harness.


Anal Beads

The repeated opening and closing of the anal sphincters from inserting and removing anal beads is a sensation that brings many people to orgasm. Anal beads come in all sizes and materials, and are a series of beads knotted into place along a string, or beads along a cord of plastic or silicone. We recommend Tantus Silicone Beads, Dragonz Tale, or the New Jelly Thai Beads.


Anal Vibrators

The outer portion of the anus is highly sensitive and rich in nerve endings. Vibration creates a heightened excitement and feeling of fullness. Popular choices are, the Tantus Protouch, or the Tantus Buzz 1.



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Materials

Anal toy materials can vary. They are similar to those used in vibrators and dildos. Please see our Materials Section in the Choosing A Dildo information section to help choose the material that you would most prefer. The most popular choice for anal toys is usually Silicone, because it is the easiest to clean and disinfect.

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Lubricants

Water-based lubricant is fine for anal play. However, most people prefer thicker lubes that will provide more cushion and appreciate those that stay wet longer. A favourite silicone lube is JO lube. For a thicker lube, the favourite is Foreplay Cream. We also recommend JO H2O for a long lasting water-based lubricant for anal play.

Another product that's coming soon to the Stag Shop is "System JO shooters". They are one-time-use tubes with an applicator that is pre-filled. This way you and/or your partner can put your lube exactly where you need it!


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Anal Intercourse

Couples who look to enjoy anal intercourse generally view it as the culmination of all their anal exploration activities. Essentially, anal intercourse involves inserting an erect penis or a strap-on dildo into the anal canal and is accompanied by varying degrees of rhythmic movement.

It should come as no surprise that taking it slow is especially important for those who are new to anal intercourse. It is hardly likely that it will become enjoyable unless self-exploration has first become comfortable. With some patience, however, most partners who desire anal intercourse are eventually able to make it safe and sensual experience for everyone involved.

To maximize the pleasure associated with anal sex, men and women should follow some certain guidelines. These tips help ensure an exciting and safer experience for each partner.

The anal area harbors various germs that must be washed away before intercourse. Many couples enjoy the experience of cleaning each other in the shower as part of their foreplay.

There are many folds inside the anus. While it is not necessary, a warm water enema can help clean inside the anal area in preparation for intercourse. Again, some couples find administering the enema as a pleasurable part of foreplay. Even when the area has been cleansed with an enema, a condom is highly suggested as a means for significantly reducing the changes of bacteria infections.

Because of the structure and musculature of the anus, it is imperative that a couple uses a water-based and silicone lubricant while engaging in anal sex. Not only do water-based lubricants increase sensitivity and ease penetration, they also serve to help protect the anal tissues from being harmed.

Of course, the penis or any object that has been inserted into the anus, should never be inserted in the vagina following anal sex without first removing the condom and replacing it with a new contraceptive.


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Safety & Health

Make sure you use condoms with your anal toys if you are going to share them. If they are silicone or metal, you can boil them in between uses. It is possible to pass HIV, hepatitis, and bacteria by sharing anal toys. When putting a condom on a butt plug, we recommend tying a knot at the base of the plug to prevent the condom from slipping off during use.

Latex gloves and condoms are essential for clean safe sex and dental dams to prevent oral-anal bacterial or viral transmission during rimming.

If you are uneasy about the sight of fecal matter making an unwelcome appearance, you can use anal douche to clean the anus before anal play.


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